A few. These have shown up in my life when I needed them most, and they have stuck with me since.
My maternal grandparents’ motto within their relationship: “Make a choice. If it’s not a good one, make a new one.”
As I know it, my grandmother wanted a man in her life who could make a decision. Even if it didn’t feel quite right or always work out, they would figure it out along the way, so long as a decision was made.
My paternal grandparents’ motto within their relationship: “If we can get through this, we can get through anything.”
As I know this one, there is trauma within this lineage: religious persecution, mass genocide, familial discord and abuses; and more than once, they faced difficulties in their relationship as a pair that put them to the test. Most recently, my grandfather’s health, where he battled cancer for 16 years that eventually took his life; he fought until the end, until his decision to be done.
Finally: “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.”
A chiropractor friend bestowed this knowledge on me a few years ago. I had never heard the real version, always know it as “blood is thicker than water”. Upon hearing the unclipped version, it resonated so highly and gave me perspective I’d lacked. Our family is who shows up for us, puts in the effort, who we break bread with, endure hardship, risk, sacrifice, and rupture and repair. Our family is not always whom we are born to, but who we choose and who chooses us in return.
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